Being a perfect single lady, a free spirit, a traveller without string attached with a facility to “backwash” people from her life, I have believed for a long time that relationship and travelling would not be a good match. Being also a great romantic, I have also dreamed about the possible scenario that one day I could meet this charming backpacker who would change my mind. Australia + my exoticism + that charming backpacker= realized scenario Here are the reasons why it has been so easy to let myself be tempted by love while travelling:
- The relationships are intense
All the relationships you have on the road always end up intensified. This guy from your hostel will become your friend, your travel “buddy”, your secret’s keeper in 24 hours and if you’re lucky, in a few more days! In this romantic scenario, those 24 hours are transformed into emotions, laughs, happiness and fear of having to say goodbye. In scenario A, the love-birds leave, having different plans, a flight back home or the fear of losing his precious freedom. OR Scenario B snaps and the new couple decides to share adventure and passion.
Desperately looking for a job, while I was living in Sydney, almost ruined, I was looking for a “travel buddy” (or an hitch-hiking partner) to get a job somewhere in Australia. With Facebook and his many groups of backpackers, it was easy to make a post and get a response. So I met online (and yes, through Facebook) this charming backpacker. After a few days of making plans, Mister was already booking a train ticket to join me in Sydney. So we met a second time (in the “real life” this time) in Sydney’s Central Station. The next morning we bought a car (the hitch-hiking plan was too scary for him) and we drove to Perth. Since that day, I share my life with this charming backpacker every day. Mister became my “travel buddy”, my secret’s keeper, my best friend and my lover.
- Happiness needs to be shared (and costs too)!
How many times have I thought that this moment / this place would be perfect to be shared? Well that’s the joy of being with someone! Bonus: the scene is magical! If I have travelled solo more than once, I also know that sometimes loneliness catches us and it is more than pleasant to have some company. What is the matter of seeing the most beautiful thing on Earth, if you have no one to share your joy with? Even if I (sometimes) become socially exhausted, I am pleased to share my future memories with someone. Plus, I know that the day I will return home, most of my stable friends will not be interested in my travel stories (which never ends I have to admit)!
- The joys behind having a “stake”
I’m human (Why?) and sometimes I have my weakness’s moments when I miss home, need comfort or get the blues. Having a “stake” in my discomfort zone makes it easier to manage! Plus, if everything changes around you, there is always this familiar face hanging around. Having a “stake” also means having the «push» you need. Here are a few life’s slices shared with this charming backpacker and it would probably not have happened if I had been by myself.
– Road trip Sydney-Perth in 4 days and we pitched the tent everywhere at night
Result: we slept on a scorpion
– Finding a job in a “roadhouse” around Perth
Result: we left this job with an SMS as a notice and the perfect excuse (life is too short to be unhappy)
– 88 days of regional work (We survived it!)
Result: My “stake” was able to take care of my fear of spiders and my exhausted tears (and I have a second year visa now!)
– Go on a road trip with plans in our minds
Result: To be broke again, for the third time
What about you? Did you ever fall in love with another backpacker?